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Posted at 2007-08-31 10:22:45 by shanbrenek
What do you tell your kids about how to share? How do you handle a struggle over a toy?
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Posted at 2007-08-31 12:59:58 by kate
This is a tough issue for all kids at this age, right? I usually say that they have to take turns, that they should try to play WITH someone, instead of fighting them on every issue.
I think three has been much better than two, at least for us, in terms of understanding the concept (as for actual execution, that's another story).
As for an in-progress struggle, my first defense is to try to interest both kids in a way to play together, and if that fails, then whoever had it first gets it. And the other kid has to wait his turn.
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Posted at 2007-09-05 05:05:05 by AliceBran
I feel like this is a constant struggle that never gets resolved. It's like banging your head on a brick wall. Basically we try to do the same as Kate...explaining taking turns, setting a timer for that. We have been telling nora that if she wants what luke has she has to bring him something else--that used to work perfectly but he is getting smarter now and isn't thrilled with it. I also use the 5 minute rule-if they're fighting over something I often step back and see if they can resolve it on their own, and if in 5 minutes it's not over, then I say that I am taking away the toy and no one can have it-that usually results in one party relenting, if that doesn't happen, I have to take away whatever it is and everyone is upset. I think sharing is a concept that takes most of their childhood to adopt and execute willingly.
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